Frequently asked questions

Every story deserves to be told with care and authenticity. At STORIES THAT DEFINE US, we are dedicated to transforming your memories and experiences into lasting written legacies. Our approach is rooted in deep listening and skillful writing, ensuring your unique perspective is honored and preserved for future generations. Explore the answers below to learn more about how we can help you share your story.

Q: Can you work with clients remotely?

A: Yes! We are able to serve clients nationwide and internationally through video calls, phone interviews, email, and digital file sharing. Distance is no barrier to preserving your legacy.

 

Q: What is the difference between an autobiography and a memoir?

A: An autobiography is a comprehensive account of your entire life from birth to present, told chronologically. A memoir focuses on specific themes, periods, or experiences—like your career, a transformative journey, or overcoming adversity. Memoirs are more intimate and reflective, while autobiographies provide a complete life overview.

 

Q: I'm not a writer. Can you still help me?

A: Absolutely! That's exactly why we're here. Many of our clients have never written professionally. We offer everything from full ghostwriting services (where we write your story for you based on interviews) to guided writing support where we help you develop your own voice. We meet you wherever you are in the process.

 

Q: What types of stories do you specialize in ghostwriting?

A: We specialize in a wide range of personal and historical narratives. This includes memoirs, biographies, family histories/legacies, ethical wills, legacy letters, family business/corporate histories, community histories, and oral histories. Our mission is to capture and preserve any story that holds significance and deserves to be shared.

 

Q: How long does a typical project take?

A: Timelines vary based on project scope. A legacy letter might take 2-4 weeks, while a full memoir can take 6-12 months or longer. Genealogical research depends on how far back you're tracing and the availability of records. During our initial consultation, we'll provide a realistic timeline for your specific project.

 

Q: How do you ensure my personal information and story remain confidential?

A: Confidentiality is paramount to us. We establish clear non-disclosure agreements from the outset, and all client information and project details are handled with the utmost discretion and security. Your privacy is guaranteed throughout our entire collaboration.

 

Q: What's a legacy letter, and who should write one?

A: A legacy letter (or ethical will) is a personal document sharing your values, life lessons, and hopes for future generations. Everyone can benefit from writing one—whether you're facing a health crisis, approaching retirement, or simply want to preserve your wisdom for children and grandchildren. Unlike legal wills that distribute assets, ethical wills distribute wisdom.

What They Typically Include:

  • Core values and beliefs that guided your life
  • Important life lessons learned through experience
  • Stories of pivotal moments and decisions
  • Expressions of love and gratitude to family
  • Hopes and blessings for descendants
  • Explanations of the choices you made
  • Spiritual or philosophical perspectives
  • Family traditions you hope will continue

Why They Matter:

Connection Beyond Death: They create an enduring emotional bond, allowing your voice and spirit to guide loved ones long after you're gone.

Context and Understanding: They help family members understand why you made certain choices, preventing misunderstandings and regrets.

Healing and Reconciliation: They offer opportunities to express forgiveness, explain difficult situations, or mend relationships.

Identity and Belonging: They give descendants a moral compass and sense of identity rooted in family wisdom.

Perspective During Crisis: Future generations facing challenges can return to your words for guidance and encouragement.

Unlike material inheritances that are eventually spent or divided, legacy letters become more valuable over time, offering comfort, clarity, and connection across generations. They're among the most meaningful gifts you can leave behind.

Q: How does working with your company usually go, from start to finish? What should people expect when they order a service or product?

A: Our process typically begins with an initial consultation to discuss the services we offer and to understand your objectives. For services like ghostwriting, we then move to in-depth interviews, research, outlining, drafting, and iterative revisions until your story is perfectly captured. Via email, we keep you informed at every step, ensuring a smooth and satisfying experience.

 

Q: Can you help design and publish my book?

A: Absolutely. Our book layout and design services create beautiful, professional publications. We handle formatting, photo placement, cover design, and can guide you through printing options—from print-on-demand services to traditional offset printing for larger quantities.

 

Q: What materials should I gather before we begin working together?

A: Gather whatever you have—old photos, documents, letters, journals, recordings—and we'll help sort through them. Even if you have nothing but memories, we can start there.

 

Q: What are community histories?

A: Community history projects document the story of neighborhoods, communities, churches, schools, clubs, or organizations. We conduct interviews, research archives, and create books or digital resources that preserve collective memory and strengthen community identity.

 

Q: Do you offer editing and proofreading for existing manuscripts?

A: Yes, we do. Our services include professional proofreading and editing to refine your existing manuscripts, ensuring clarity, grammar, style, and overall coherence. Whether you need a light polish or a comprehensive edit, we can help elevate your writing to publication-ready standards.

 

Q: Can I review and provide feedback during the ghostwriting process?

A: Absolutely. Collaboration is key to our process. We involve you at every significant stage, from initial outlines to drafts, ensuring your feedback is incorporated. We believe in crafting narratives that truly reflect your voice and vision, and your input is invaluable.

 

Q: Do you recommend writing my obituary while I'm still living?

A: Yes, we do. More people are writing their own obituaries— as a final act of self-expression and a profound gift to grieving loved ones.

Why the Trend is Growing:

• Control Over Your Narrative: You ensure your life story is told accurately and completely, highlighting what matters most to you rather than what surviving relatives might remember or prioritize.

• Relief for Grieving Family: Writing an obituary while in grief is agonizing. Your pre-written obituary eliminates this burden during their darkest hour.

• Accuracy and Completeness: Only you know the full scope of your life—the organizations you belonged to, people who mattered, accomplishments you valued, jobs you held, places you lived. Families often discover important details too late or never.

• Preventing Family Conflict: Disagreements over obituary content can create lasting rifts. Your version becomes the definitive record, preventing disputes.

• Personal Voice and Humor: When you're the narrator, you can inject personality, humor, or unconventional elements that reflect the real you.

      Many people write multiple versions—a formal obituary for newspapers, a longer version for funeral programs or online memorials, and even humorous or brutally honest versions for close friends. You can update these as your life evolves. Writing your own obituary and planning your funeral are among the most thoughtful, loving acts you can perform. You're crafting the final chapter of your story and taking charge of how you'll be remembered. 

 

Q: How can I get started with preserving my story?

A: The best way to begin is by reaching out for a free initial consultation. You can contact us via phone at 225-921-7748, or email at storiesthatdefineus@gmail.com.There is also a contact form on our website. We're excited to learn about your story and discuss how we can help bring it to life.

Ready to share your story?

We hope these answers have provided clarity and confidence. Your story is a valuable legacy, and we are honored to help you preserve it. If you have any further questions or are ready to begin, we invite you to connect with us directly.